Yet another story of ‘Household violence’

December 9, 2009 at 12:17 pm 43 comments

NOTE: This post is dedicated to all the cursed souls who are ‘tortured’ by there maids

While talking with my friend sometime back, he happened to told me about his maid. Before she joined them she demanded like – there should be colour TV with tata sky or BIG TV in the house, washing machine (she openly told she can’t hand wash clothes), can’t wash floor and toilets, vacuum cleaner should be there, she can’t work before 6 AM and after 11:30 PM and also if any special movies aired in the TV, she won’t work until it gets over etc etc. Seems now she is the master of the house and he and his wife are literally ‘servicing’ her. I was not surprised when I heard this. From my cousins, family friends, neighbours I’m hearing the same for a long time (and also from my personal experience).now a days it’s very hard to get housemaids from Kerala and if they are any, majority of them preferring to work in the young techies homes in Chennai, pune and Bangalore. So most of them reluctantly agree to there ‘demands’.
Okay let me tell a normal day in my house. Sister used get up early morning 5:45 and all. Then she will try to wake up our great ‘chinnakili’ from her deep sleep. She will just turn back to other side and will continue to sleep. After 10 minutes

Sis: chinnakili get up. Chinna: ahhh hummm
After 10 minutes Bro-in-law: chinnakili get up fast and please help akka in kitchen, yesterday U were drunk or what …By the time nephews will get up and shout
Nephews: chinnu,chinuuuuu darling .Get up fast, today also you are last(who got up).give us the tv remote

Finally coz of the noise of pogo\cartoon network and all, she will get up. Then our princess will pick the metro plus and espresso (cinema supplement in Indian express) and sneak into the corner of the kitchen. By the time when my sister ask her minimum 3-4 times to do something, if she is in good mood she will do, else will sleep in the corner of kitchen or snatch the remote from someone and watch Tamil music channels
Next night, sister is back from office at 8 PM and asking her

Sis: what u prepared for dinner Chinu: akka, rice Sis: rice with?
Chinu:Didn’t do anything akkka,inneku sun tv’il super star padam vanthachu…So was busy watching that, anyways something will be there in fridge

After dinner and all we will ask her minimum 10 times, to finish the work and go to sleep early. But when we all move to our respective room and switch of the light, she sneak out to the hall, make sure everyone is asleep and grab the remote and will be watching TV till late night or until someone else come to hall.
And on Saturdays my sister (on her hard earned holiday after really stressful days in office) will be battling in kitchen and with kids instead of relaxing and having some nice time and our princess will be watching latest movies in TV and if there is not any good movies in TV, she will get some DVD’s from shelf and will be watching it. Ohh my god she is one lucky specie. Only we know how we are controlling ourselves.
Actually I explained very small percent here. But we don’t have any choice coz it is hard to get a trustworthy maid now a days. So we are just tolerating her. And also it is not only the case in my house but also in the neighbourhood and most of our family friend’s house.

Some one is there to talk for us????…is anyone is listening??? … we are also ‘suffering’ badly.


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43 Comments Add your own

  • 1. scorpiogenius  |  December 9, 2009 at 1:25 pm

    lol, donno if to bash oneself or to laugh out..

  • 3. Priti  |  December 9, 2009 at 1:35 pm

    My instant reaction was – ROFL
    But then on a serious note, it must be getting quite annoying for the masters of the ‘princess’. I wonder is there no way to control such attyachar bestowed by the maids. Are they servicing us or are we servicing them???

    • 4. anishthomas  |  December 9, 2009 at 8:04 pm

      Are they servicing us or …. Good question priti 🙂 …u said it….even that is my doubt 🙄

  • 5. Smita  |  December 9, 2009 at 4:05 pm

    Though I would love to say ROFL! But the fact is it is pathetic!!! These maids run a cartel!!! You can do nothing but to let them get away with things like these.
    me : exactly smita 😦
    But tell me the way you have described here why do u need a maid at all?? You sis is doing the lion share of work!!!
    me: you know now a days its very hard to get a trust worthy maids.Someone is there to take care of kids , when we all go to office.That is the main reason they are keeping her still

    But yes this is a domestic violence of other kind!!

    me : glad you agree with me 🙂 .But what 2 do …sighh 🙄

  • 6. Nona  |  December 9, 2009 at 4:48 pm

    🙂 Interesting tale.

    We rely on day care for taking care of our daughter. We have a maid who comes in to clean the house and do the dishes. For washing, we rely on the washing machine. For food, we have a cook who comes in for an hour in the morning. He is efficient for he cooks at least two dishes, chapathis and probably breakfast in one hour.

    We did think of having a live-in maid. Then, decided against it as then we get less privacy.

    • 7. anishthomas  |  December 9, 2009 at 8:11 pm

      Thats cool Nona 🙂 .We too have a another maid for cleaning floor and toilet(daily 1 hour).but we need some one trustworthy to take care of the kids ,when we all go to office.That is why we need a live-in maid

  • 8. Mallene  |  December 9, 2009 at 5:56 pm

    😀 😀

    • 9. anishthomas  |  December 9, 2009 at 7:39 pm

      Hey Mallene welcome here 😀

  • 10. kanagu  |  December 9, 2009 at 11:10 pm

    Hi machi.. you are tagged 🙂 🙂

    • 11. anishthomas  |  December 10, 2009 at 2:04 pm

      thanks kanagu , will do it 😀 😀

  • 12. Vimmuuu  |  December 10, 2009 at 3:24 am

    Dude, dont complain too much !! you might end up as the next Shiney Ahuja !! 😀 😀 😀 😀

    • 13. anishthomas  |  December 10, 2009 at 2:03 pm

      ROFL , Dude i was about to mention that..i mean no Shiney Ahuja jokes ….but somehow forget it 🙂 …

  • 14. kanagu  |  December 10, 2009 at 3:17 pm

    ROFL machi… 😆 😆 this is hilarious…

    /*Sis: chinnakili get up. Chinna: ahhh hummm
    After 10 minutes Bro-in-law: chinnakili get up fast and please help akka in kitchen, */

    when I read this, I have misinterpreted chinnakili as your sister….

    she is a lucky maid 😛 😛

    • 15. anishthomas  |  December 10, 2009 at 7:35 pm

      lol , Kanagu she(my sis) has a sweet name 😀

      yeahh offcourse she is very lucky to get a family like theirs 🙂
      thanks da 🙂

  • 16. Destiny's Child  |  December 10, 2009 at 4:13 pm

    My heart goes out to you and your family….all the best! 😀

    • 17. anishthomas  |  December 10, 2009 at 7:30 pm

      Hey welcome here Destiny’s Child 🙂 ,

      Thank you so much for your ‘support’. 😉 😀 😀

  • 18. Swaram  |  December 10, 2009 at 4:47 pm

    Hey! Thatz ridiculous na! Does she take care of the kids atleast? If nt, there’s no reason to serve her so much na!

    • 19. anishthomas  |  December 10, 2009 at 7:46 pm

      Thank god , she take care of the kids somehow properly(the main reason my sister is closing her eyes to all these ).Atleast make them eat on time and trustworthy in that case.Only problem is damn lazy,absent minded(it is a very decent term for her) and very very crazy about movies.

      yeahh it is ridiculous .But unfortunately it is the same case with a lot of people I know.And it is very hard to get trustworthy live-in maid now a days .So most of the peoples are just tolerating them

  • 20. rajlakshmi  |  December 11, 2009 at 5:14 pm

    OMG thats harrasment… gosh… I would have been tearing my hair if ever I get a maid like her… hehehe you and your family must be very very patient to bear her 🙂

    • 21. anishthomas  |  December 11, 2009 at 8:06 pm

      ROFL , yeahh they are tearing there hair 😀 😀 😀

  • 22. doctoratlarge  |  December 13, 2009 at 2:21 pm

    In Kerala, I believe, due to the hegemony of communist thinking, workers are extremely aware of their rights, and quite oblivious to their duty towards their employers.
    One of my relatives in Kerala had to move from one city to another and when they were unloading their household items from the truck, some workers gathered around and demanded a certain sum for the task. My relatives felt it was too high a sum and decided to do the unloading themselves, on which they were informed that they were free to do so as long as they paid the demanded sum to the workers as their ‘due’.
    This is probably why no industry has flourished in the state.

    • 23. anishthomas  |  January 1, 2010 at 7:22 pm

      Hmm that was so sad…..Don’t know why government is not taking any serious steps to control\prevent this……..

  • 24. Zahra  |  December 13, 2009 at 5:13 pm

    Lol…. I’m sure a lot of people will empathize… Could this be the latest form of terrorism?? 😛

    Am visiting your blog for the first time….went through some of the older posts too…it’s nice!

    • 25. anishthomas  |  December 14, 2009 at 3:41 pm

      Welcome here Zahra 🙂 ,

      I know that.Who knows this is the latest form of ‘terrorism’ 😀
      Thank you so much for the appreciation .it meant a lot to me 🙂
      thanks once again visiting the old posts and do come here 🙂

  • 26. Vimmuuu  |  December 14, 2009 at 5:23 am

    Heyy, you are mentioned in my 200th post. Have a look :

    me : checked it and commented over there 😀 😀

  • 27. Vijay  |  December 15, 2009 at 12:04 pm

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  • 28. Happy Kitten  |  December 15, 2009 at 1:51 pm


    I am done with maids and am happy now.. even if a maid is gifted to me, I wont take 🙂

    there was a time when they ruled my emotions, time and not to forget the budget… out of countless ones there were just 2 who were good and who did their job well…

    but then in India we are forced to depend upon them for so many reasons and not just for the kids.. nd getting a good one is the most toughest jobs these days…

    • 29. anishthomas  |  December 16, 2009 at 10:51 am

      lol Happy Kitten 🙂 , I know lot of people are going though similar experience.That is why in the beginning of the post i mentioned about that dedication.
      yeahh U r right , u have to be so lucky to get a good one :).

  • 30. Suji!  |  December 16, 2009 at 6:55 am

    kaasu koduthu kadikkunna pattiye vangi alle? 😀

    me : no comments suji 😀 😀 …you are yet to experience it 😀 😀 😀

  • 31. Dreamer  |  December 16, 2009 at 9:54 am

    ROFL 😀 Chinnakili sure is lucky to have landed in a considerate family such as your sisters’.
    But on the flip side I think that other than in Kerala where majority of the maids are at least semi-literate and aware of their rights, these people are often exploited and made to work quite hard for a living.

    • 32. anishthomas  |  December 16, 2009 at 10:53 am

      Dreamer , she is not a malayali.Her problem is she is absent minded and too lazy.I’m aware about what u told.Heard about those kind of things happening in north.But here we are giving her all the facilities(even consider like a member in our family).Then why can’t she act sensibly?

  • 33. chatterbox  |  December 18, 2009 at 4:02 pm

    You’ve managed to keep a stone of humor on your heart to present this account that in-fact would be a bit too annoying (or even frustrating) on a day-to-day basis.

    I agree it is indeed terrorism in disguise.:)

    A hot potato that you can’t swallow and neither can you spit it out 😀

    I hope things get somewhat better for you soon.

    Keep up the wonderful work 🙂


    • 34. anishthomas  |  December 18, 2009 at 5:22 pm

      Hey first of all welcome here chatterbox 🙂 ,

      this whole post is my frustations about her 😀 .Glad you find it humorous.A as you told it is a hot potato that i can’t swallow and spit it out 😀 😀 😀

      Anyways thanks and do come here 🙂

  • 35. Ekta Khetan  |  December 18, 2009 at 11:20 pm

    haha that reminds of the maid that my sister has. She wants to snuggle in same bed as I does, watch tv and in fact make us watch what she wanted to. Thank god I do not have a full timer. Else I could have recovered all that rental that I pay for cable tv..hahahaa

    My cook in fact experimented with some vegetable today and men she turned it into disaster.

    • 36. anishthomas  |  December 28, 2009 at 11:56 am

      Hey Ekta , welcome here 🙂

      LOL 😀 I can imagine that , especially make us watch what she wanted to …what to do
      Anyways thank god she never used to experiment with kitchen 🙂 🙂

  • 37. Nancy  |  December 20, 2009 at 11:36 pm

    LOL Anish…..I had a good laugh 😀

    This is typical case of ‘vaddi koduthu addi vangikunna’ parupaadi

    She’s got a nice name anyway…

    chinnakilli, ohhh chinnakilli villikaan oru sukham onda

    😀 😀

    • 38. anishthomas  |  December 28, 2009 at 11:57 am

      hehe enthu cheyana…avarude samayam 🙂 🙂

  • 39. ariyathe  |  December 21, 2009 at 12:49 am

    My first reaction- oh the woes of the bourgeoisie.. haha just kidding, just kidding.

    me : 😀

    Here, most people can’t afford maids but the ones that do, pay serious money for them! I’m pretty sure the maid at this place I know earns more than my mom… and my mom has a ph.D!!!

    me : can’t believe , so how do u manage all household works

    ^and I was going to comment on the name too. haha
    maybe having no maids at all is a better bet… if they can’t find work, demands would be lowered. But then again, maybe that’s a heartless thing to say ;]

    me : hehe ROFL , that is not as easy as you said

  • 40. Indyeah  |  December 25, 2009 at 3:10 am

    havent read the post yetANish:) just wanted to wish you first:) Happy Christmas and all the best for the year ahead:)

    • 41. anishthomas  |  December 28, 2009 at 12:00 pm

      Hey thank U so much Indyeah 🙂
      wish u the same and may god bless u richly in new year 🙂

  • 42. Vinod Asokan  |  January 22, 2010 at 9:24 am

    That is the absolute truth you have written about maids in Kerala. If you are in need live-in maids(esp for looking after kids) you have to bear(their behavior,TV watching) and care(give leave/beak from work, give free-bees when going home, gifts during festivals, empathize with neighbours sickness/death and give them a day’s leave).
    But at the end of day, what is get desertion. This is the only aspect which worries me abt returning to Kerala next month.

    • 43. anishthomas  |  January 22, 2010 at 12:52 pm

      First of all welcome here Vinod 🙂 ,
      Exactly vinod , can’t agree with u more 🙂


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