November 27, 2009 at 4:47 pm 40 comments

Sometime back I was searching for some flash games in net for my nephew’s.While surfing I happened to see this game and I was surprised and shocked when I came to know what type of game it was. I heard about toon sex and all a lot, But never thought even in my wildest dream it will present\available in a kids site (later I found that there was not one but many which initially looked harmless but very nasty which is good enough to pollute\damage those innocent minds). I just don’t understand what traffic, what income they need by polluting and exploiting these innocent minds. My nephews (9 and 6 years old) often surf Google for games but the very thought of this – just one click can take them to most explicit site which is beyond imaginable scared me.

Now day’s kids are fast and they easily grasp things. But unfortunately same can’t be told, when it comes identifying what is right or what is wrong. And also can’t blame them for that because they don’t know that is bad and they are innocent or not big enough to identify good\bad. Unfortunately if we failed to find it out or notice it, probably they will consider it as not a big deal and also it will adversely affect or say damage their personality, finally the aftereffects will be disastrous I guess(they will believe what they see or their friends, more than there parents or other elders).
It is not only kids who are vulnerable but unfortunately our teenagers too. There are countless pages \ groups in social networking sites like Face book, my space, orkut which serve forbidden fruit ,that is easily accessible to anyone at anytime. And we don’t need the help of any surveys to guess that how many teenagers\minors visit, join all these (Common Interest – Sexuality) kinda groups. Another dangerous thing is chat rooms. There are lots of psychos (pedophiles) who are looking especially for minors for exploiting those (few years back a school girl is seduced by a group of guys through orkut in Delhi and killed by the same later is one example.). If they fall for them once, it will affect them mentally or make them feel guilty about it and finally it may result in serious consequences. Then another one is web cam, which is good enough to make anyone porn star in seconds or strong enough to make you regret for a lifetime for making a small mistake.
I’m not trying to say all the technologies, everything is bad or something likes that. If we take some small care or safety measures it will be wonderful things that will enhance the quality of life. If you follow the points mentioned below, I think that is more than enough to keep your kid\little brothers\sisters from trapped in ‘net’ (to a big extend).

  • Always keep your computer in common room like master bedroom or main hall. And no laptops for juniors (especially with webcam).It is known fact that even engineering \ management students(almost 90 %) use there pc\laptop for watching movies, playing games, IM or surfing unless during study holidays ,exams or project time(for studying purpose). I don’t think school kids has to do anything more than that
  • Install a good firewall\filter like net dog (one of the best software to block porn websites) or Trusted filtering etc. Also recommended to use – Safe eyes (let you track your kids instant messaging and social networking)
  • Teach them that never share their(or there parents) personal information or pictures in the web(plenty of cheap software’s are available in net which can easily manipulate pics)
  • Make them aware about traps in net (don’t wait until they become victim). When I was in school, every year they used conduct awareness program\workshops\plays about the ill effects of using drugs, alcohol, smoking. Now it is high time to add cyber issues also along with them.
  • Before you gift your kid (school kid) a cell phone, just think for a second that, is that really necessary for him\her. If it is necessary ,it is recommended to use software’s from websafety or safekids (which block them from sending receiving inappropriate messages\pictures\videos).But remember that it will give protection from cyber traps only not from psychos in real world.
  • Last but not least, try to be in the friend list of your kid’s social networking sites. So that at least you can monitor them, with whom all they are communicating and what they are doing.

All the parents believe there kids are best and they can’t be\won’t be bad. But that doesn’t mean we can give\guide them license\opportunity\show the way to be bad

P.S : Many of the young parents are technology-illiterate to there kids .But it doesn’t mean they can outsmart you, i.e. always try to be smarter than them :).


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  • 1. Nona  |  November 27, 2009 at 6:04 pm

    This is a good compilation of “what to do”. Thanks.

  • 3. scorpiogenius  |  November 27, 2009 at 6:39 pm

    That’s a good list of ‘what to do’ man..
    I was unaware of the ‘safe eyes’ and ‘net dog’ programmes. Thanks for all the info. 🙂

    • 4. anishthomas  |  November 28, 2009 at 3:24 pm

      Thanks man 🙂
      Actually most of the people are unaware of these things.

  • 5. ginocolada  |  November 27, 2009 at 7:00 pm

    The human biological phenomena of commercial relevant content is the most powerful and sustained system of propaganda in human history and its cumulative cultural effects, unless quickly checked, will be responsible for destroying the world as we know it.


    • 6. anishthomas  |  November 30, 2009 at 11:35 am

      Hey gino, welcome here 🙂 ,
      yeahh I echo your thoughts….

  • 7. vimmuuu  |  November 27, 2009 at 7:36 pm

    ani-shhhhhhhh !!!!my parents mite read this post and thats the end of my net life !! 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀

    wonderful post anish ! 🙂

    • 8. anishthomas  |  November 28, 2009 at 3:26 pm

      ROFL , I’m damn sure my parents are not gonna read this hehehe , so i’m safe 🙂
      Thanks Vimmu 😀

  • 9. Pins N Ashes  |  November 27, 2009 at 7:37 pm

    now u have scared me to Anish! Apart from all those to dos I would say build a relationship with ur kids which is filled with trust. And communication. A lot of calamities can be prevented if the kids approach the parents as their first source of information…. Build that trust n ur kids are in safe hands. I think the conscience will think 10 times and ring n umteen bells when they are gonna take that wrong turn…

    • 10. anishthomas  |  November 28, 2009 at 3:30 pm

      Agree with U pins ,
      But the problem is they don’t know whether it is bad or good(probably until 12 years) , if they exposed to this at a young age without parents supervision they might think these all the part of life.And finally it will be hard for elders to make them understand this and clear them.I believe if u take some simple steps ,it will be good for them only.As i said in the post our kids are good one but that doesn’t mean you can give license for them to do anything.

  • 11. Deeps  |  November 28, 2009 at 9:57 am

    Fantastic post,Anish!

    I agree with PNA here. What is also important,along with the ‘to do’s’ is to ensure children have a good rapport with their parents. The parents have to bring about certain policing when it comes to their children spending time on the net. Yes of course installing ‘net blog’ and ‘safe eyes’ would help them too in keeping track of their children’s ‘browse-abouts’ !! If they also make communication a practice,and ensure they advice their children about the adversities of internet,then I think the kids too will be alert in straying into all those unwanted sites.

    You’ve brought out a very relevant post. Parents of today’s generation need to read it.

    • 12. anishthomas  |  November 28, 2009 at 3:33 pm

      Thanks deeps,
      Agree with everything you mentioned here deeps. Yeah i know, even most of the todays tech savvy parents are unaware\careless of this(2 say even many of my friends and cousins).That is the reason i wrote this post.So that maybe at least it will reach a few.

  • 13. Smita  |  November 28, 2009 at 4:17 pm

    A very relevant post Anish!!! I have friends who have given good amount of net access to their kids and then they lose sleep over it!!!

    It is a big bad world out there!! Sigh!!! Your tips make hell lot of sense!!!

    • 14. anishthomas  |  November 30, 2009 at 11:32 am

      Thanks smita,
      I know that and i heard a lot about it and i’m hearing a lot still.That is the reason why i wrote this post

  • 15. ginocolada  |  November 28, 2009 at 6:35 pm

    I linked to you article, and nice comments !

    Keep up to good work,

    The G

  • 18. Swaram  |  November 29, 2009 at 10:48 pm

    Wonderful post Anish .. I am amazed @ how mature u r @ handling things … nice list of to-dos there 🙂

    me: haaa swar U made my day 🙂 , thanks
    U r abs rt abt all the points mentioned there! I agree with Deepu too .. we need to develop a good rapport with our kids so that they can be open with us and discuss things!
    me: exactly , it is very necessary (prevention is always better than cure)

  • 19. ginocolada  |  November 30, 2009 at 6:04 pm

    “And there floated the little boy… …between the oceans of subliminal messages he went… …for one day he might realize the inevitable effect… …and so the word spread.” – The elders of Tanti Pokhari

    “In the year that followed the digital space… … therefor repelled this consciousness and dreamed of a world alike dreams.” – Escape from Changunarayan

    “Nothing improves the consciousness more than the inner confrontation of opposites.” – Carl G. Jung

    Only contradication are sustainable.

  • 20. Solilo  |  December 1, 2009 at 11:26 am

    That is a good ‘safety on the net’ post, Anish. I have seen so many teens on the net chatting away with much older men about their personal matters and that way give away lot of info. It is scary.

    Freedom is good but it is for us elders to also check what our kids are exposed to.

    • 21. anishthomas  |  December 1, 2009 at 12:41 pm

      Thanks Solilo 🙂 ,
      The only solution for that is we have to make them understand its consequences and ask them to desist from doing so.I have seen many parents who are so proud about there ‘net savvy’ kids.That is good only but they should also take some care.What to do , world is so bad

  • 22. Indian Homemaker  |  December 1, 2009 at 5:22 pm

    Extremely relevant post Anish!! I feel the idea of keeping the computer in a common area where anybody can see it (and no individual computers for small kids) is a sensible idea.

    me :exactly

    Communication is great but I would still recommend restricted browsing and use of filters. I recently read another post on ‘Mama mia me a mamma”s blog, about one of these games and it was unbelievable – this game was about molesting a woman and her two daughters.

    me : I still don’t understand why many peoples are not understanding it.But wails that there kid is full time before system /net
    @ mamamia’s post -yeahh i read it juts now…what to say, the parents who want there kids to born with some values and morals do the needfull to protect there kids from psychos(or predators as she told)

    I feel all young people need to be guided about this, as a regular part of school curriculum.

    me : it is high time for that IHM….in fact very necessary

    • 23. anishthomas  |  December 3, 2009 at 12:01 pm

      between funny guys(or weird or insane).why do they wanna spend there time and energy for those useless things 🙄

  • 24. Ginocolada  |  December 1, 2009 at 5:44 pm

    You have been very generous and kind to write many of replies. I appreciate it greatly. I profit from you not only directly by your intelligence and hard work but by your tremendous willingness and ability to engage others including me.

    I hope you know that I admire you intellectually, work and ethically and recommend you to others by heart. However, here again I am totally mystified by how you read me, but I do not wish to argue since I think you have been tolerant enough of my “thoughts” by allowing this comment. I profit too from the way in which you can see me missing you since this allows me a glass about how such appearance is possible. This is more exciting for me because, and I think you have recognized this as much as my failure to understand you on your terms, there is a great deal upon which we agree even when you think otherwise. So allow me to say that within the vocabulary of things, what I perceive of your concluding statements that suits me perfectly.

    I would say, however, that the terms “games” and “politics” for me have no reference, that all things make differences,and that my understanding of such declarations is closer to the ability of realizing what is really happening in the western-world and cyberspace. Always think outside the box while embracing opportunities that appear, wherever they might be.

    The reason for contradictions is sustainability… for one day all of physical reality might cease to exist.

  • 25. Gauri Mathur  |  December 1, 2009 at 7:53 pm

    Nice Read! 🙂

    • 26. anishthomas  |  December 1, 2009 at 8:00 pm

      First of all welcome here Gauri Mathur :),
      thanks 😀

  • 27. kanagu  |  December 1, 2009 at 11:02 pm

    Superb post Anish… much to the relevance of the current situation…

    Internet is not a necessity for a kid.. but then with computer has become a household thing they are exposed to it… as you have said its better to place the comp in hall or the place in which everyone was around…

    • 28. anishthomas  |  December 2, 2009 at 11:24 am

      Thanks kanagu 😀 ,
      some awareness is required for this

  • 29. doctoratlarge  |  December 1, 2009 at 11:12 pm

    Your concerns are certainly justified. I think a balance has to be struck between being indifferent to the possibility of your kid coming under bad influence and being too interfering to the point of spying or snooping on them. The best strategy is probably to tell them the truth about the ugly part of the world and teach them to avoid those traps.

    • 30. anishthomas  |  December 2, 2009 at 11:26 am

      First of all welcome here doctor large 🙂 ,
      @ tell them – dude u can make understand 12+ years kids .But for younger ones, it is hard I guess it is better taking some precautions .

  • 31. Happy Kitten  |  December 2, 2009 at 12:26 pm

    A very timely and relevant post Anish… even I had blogged on the same but you have put in more details and facts.. nd I should say that you are much wiser than most parents…:)

    We have password locked the computers and the kids gets access to it only while we are at home and they browse in full view only…. it is only natural for children to be curious but once they get hooked onto the bad side of the net then it will be an addiction.. this addiction will take a good part of their time and their outlook towards life can also change…

    earlier children could spend their time playing outside but sadly this is changing in most households, inlcuding mine..

    • 32. anishthomas  |  December 3, 2009 at 12:07 pm

      yeahh i checked that post and commented there.Between you did the right thing happy kitten.yeahh if they get addicted to unnessary things at young age , then it will create a -ve impact on them

      earlier children could spend very true…but kids in my apartmeny are lucky…here a big set of around 20 kids(from 3-18 years) are here.Everyday they comeout and play badminton ,cricket and spend time with each other.I guess many aprtments are providing kids space and playground now a days.Another solution for that is just get membership in any clubs like YMCA or something like that

      between thanks 🙂

  • 33. Dreamer  |  December 2, 2009 at 5:57 pm

    I do let my kids use the net, but the comp is in the common room. I do keep an eye on what they are upto and they are not allowed to access unknown sites.
    me : you did the right thing
    That’s because even I had an experience similar to yours. I was shocked at the kinds of games available on a supposedly child friendly flash games site.

    me : I can understand that 🙂
    Really sensible post. Hard to believe you aren’t a parent yourself.

    me : Thanks Dreamer ,@ hard to believe .. he he , I have almost 20 + cousins who are elder to me .so u can imagine how many nephews and niece i have :).May be that is the reason 🙂

  • 34. Ginocolada  |  December 3, 2009 at 5:55 am

    In one of my previous comments to this article of relevant content to which the children of futures might refer to as I posted on making the webbrowser Firefox more secure for children by using plugins.

    These plugins for Firefox make the whole case a lot more convenient.

    Check the link my clicking on my name or go there directly from here:

    Hack the planet… its time for action!


    • 35. anishthomas  |  December 3, 2009 at 12:19 pm

      Thanks for the tip Gino 🙂 .
      But i guess chrome is more secure and faster than Firefox(it don’t have a good popup filter.Only adv compared to chrome is Firefox give option for image and script disabling )

  • 36. Rajlakshmi  |  December 8, 2009 at 3:42 pm

    A very intelligent post promoting awareness that every parent should know. No kid is safe from cyber crime unless measures are taken.

    • 37. anishthomas  |  December 11, 2009 at 12:41 pm

      Thank you Rajalakshmi 🙂 ,

      Yeahh thats what we can do , I mean raising awareness about all these social evils 🙂

  • 38. Nancy  |  December 20, 2009 at 11:46 pm

    Everybody with children will appreciate this post!!!!

    Thank U for sharing this Anish!!!!

    me : Thanks Nancy chechi

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